A NEW BEGINNING - A CHANGE WITHIN

Heya!! I do not have much friends on Twitter (it looks I’m not a Twitter attraction yet :D) so I chose FB and blog as my tool to pen down my thoughts. Well, jokes apart, I’ll not be able to limit my words to 140 characters as well.

Now that I have ample time at hand, as I have nowhere to go, I am on a Eat, Sleep, Work, Binge Watching on a repeat mode. So after a long delay, I finally saw Chappak.. I am no big critic, but as an ardent Movie Fan, I felt acting and cinematography could have been better to support the powerful story. Well, this is not a movie review, so instead of deviating from the topic, I wanted to talk about the issue that it portrayed.

Agree – we knew about this incident and this problem way back. People with high affinity for current affairs would rightly claim that Acid Attacks and weak laws to punish Acid Attackers are true perils of our society. We hear and read about the atrocities of heinous crimes like Rape, Acid Attack, empathize with victims, utter foul words for the people responsible for these crimes, do some protests and candle march, thank God that we and our loved ones are safe and then move on with our lives! That’s the beauty of life – it keeps us tirelessly busy to allow us to forget the gruesome details. Even criminals find loop holes in the Judiciary system and either escape punishment or serve a minimum sentence while moving on in their life. It is the victims/survivor’s life that takes a toll and never gets back to what it was or what it could have been.

There are numerous debates and arguments in favor or against the period or type of legal punishments for crimes and I do not want to start another one again. I feel nothing could justify the pain that a person suffers from a crime distorting their physical/mental health. I kind of liked Vikrant Massey’s dialogue from the movie – “Acid pahle dimag m ghulta hai, tabhi to haath m aata hai”(Trans. “Acid is formed inside the mind of a person before getting in hand”). Why would a person do such a thing? Ego hurt, feelings not reciprocated or just simply a moment’s mental disappointment can compel a person to hurt and disfigure another person? The more I think, the more I fail to understand the reason that rationalizes the sick desire.

What I feel for us to take a moment and think of how we can stop people from encouraging their beast within to takeover and losing their humanity. So, while we all are enjoying the permanent stay at home in the worldwide lockdown, I would request all of you to take 5 minutes and think about how to reduce the numbers. Clearly, increasing the term prison years or even capital punishment is not doing wonders with the numbers. Fun fact – I haven’t heard or read any new Acid Attack case after the recent lockdown situation. So, would it require a permanent lockdown to control the number of barbaric attacks? For today, let’s think on how we can reduce the number of Acid Attacks…   If any of our thoughts reach the wider audience and helps in reducing the acid attacks even by 1%, we’d save the 1% population from permanent disfigurement 🙏

A very sad song for broken hearts

DEDICATED TO DEAREST CHOTU

"LOST FREIND"

For the past few years I had been waiting,

With eyes full of tears,

For someone to regard as a friend.

My search was endless,

Till I came across 'U',

Someone who won my trust and confidence.

We talked and talked for hours,

Exchanging life experiences of ours.

The days passed and so did months.

Talking to u was great fun,

Listening and fighting, there was nothing that I could hide from u.

This sudden twist of fate changed everything.

Lost is the nearness and the fun,

And unfortunately lost is my dear friend.

For the past few days I have been waiting

with eyes full of tears,

Not for someone to regard as a FRIEND,

BUT FOR MY DEAR LOST FRIEND!

Stepping out of the Cradle

Finally even I am joining. The wait for my joining was so long that I literally was feeling that my life had come to a standstill. I was afraid of stepping out of my house as I had no news of my present or future. I saw a lot of ups and downs in the past year. In fact, 2009 appeared to be the longest year of the decade.

Anyways, they say that time and tide wait for none. The time flew with its own pace and brought some pleasant showers right at the beginning of the year. Cracking the job at the onset of third year of college might have been a pleasurable experience for my life, but joining the corporate world is going to be different. I am feeling the pressure and excitement already. A lot of things come to the mind instantly. I know that this is everybody's feeling and I am no exception, still it is making me feel being responsible and independent at the same time.

My descisions are respected among my family members and peers, but this used to be becuase of their love. Now it will be because of my ability. I may be blabbering too much out of joy, but is this really what everyone feels? We always hear that the corporate life is not going to be easy, especially if you are a female. You need to be constantly upgrading yourself to be a part of the rat race. This reminds me of the famous dialog, " Life is a Race". Is it really so? Can't we just embrace the new life with joy and worry about nothing? I mean being just out of college and ready to kill all your pleasure hours and probably your life too is called building future. See! I am also a part of the majority of the crowd as I too dream of a lot of things. I have dreamt and planned almost my future life, when I am simply stepping out of cradle for the first time.

This time that lies between your date of joining's announcement and the commencement of the job is actually a roller coaster ride of mixed emotions. Thoughts come and go forth so soon that they are enough to confuse you for ample amount of time. Same was mine. Without boring you much further, I will simply ask for all your best wishes for my new life ahead!

REMINISCING THE PERFECT MOMENT OF "BIDDING ADIEU"

Hello Folks! Thanks for the lovely encouragement and words of advices for my very first blog. All of your extended support propelled my desire to write my second blog. I earnestly hope to receive the same support this time too.
Life is pretty strange. Isn't it? After going through all sorts of ups and downs, we all yearn for the perfect ending. Be it related to academics or corporate life, we all desire to have a memorable farewell and I am no exception. While I passed my ICSE, I was too amateur to understand the essence of departure. I was the princess of my own dreamland and could hardly make out a difference when i had to change school. Of course, I missed my childhood buddies and am glad that they stayed with me so far and are supporting me in every walk of my life. When I finished my higher secondary schooling, even i don't know as i was busily preparing for all sorts of entrance examinations. At this point i agree with Aamir in totality: OUR EDUCATION SYSTEM SUCKS. I only can recall my farewell at the college as my most cherished part of memory and in a way a perfect farewell too.

It was like just the other days whe we used to toll in our college premises for the vivas. Engineers believe in studying or rather gathering the answers of common questions instead of wasting time in its preparation. No offense intended to the serious types who actually gave their 150% for the preparations. The only difference in 01/06/2009 and other days was that it was the last day in college for me. We spent a lovely night just the previous day. I along with my closest pals which includes 5 equally crazy people (Piya, Neeraj, Nitesh, Arunabh, Padmesh) like me spend the evening together and went to have dinner in a stormy and rainy weather. It was just the perfect time as we girls were never allowed to stay outside the hostel premises for late night parties in the whole span of our engineering. Although we, "THE SIX IDIOTS" , never required a reason to celebrate, but on 31st we had 3 major reasons. Birthdays of 2 people - Neeraj and Nitesh within the next three day, our last meal together and of course, how can i forget the last one. It was a treat from the restaurant owner. Who doesn't like treats from unexpected people? Whenever we 6 people accumulated at any place, the whole environment and mood was automatically filled with fun and laughter. It still does but the frequency of such gatherings has gone down enormously. Imagine a gang of close buddies meeting just before the night of departure and no one spoke about it. Rather we did all crazy things that brought us together. Every perfect thing has an end and so we had to return back as we had our final year project scheduled the very next day.
01/06/2009: THE D DAY. We couldn't think of the farewell part as our mind was preoccupied with the presentation basics. The project presentation actually robbed all our emotions of moving away from each other. Just like every other engineers story, my group's story was also the same one. We somehow managed to complete the project, but were divided among our opinions. I can only say that I and piya was sticking around me and that was the biggest comfort that I could have asked for. After spending a sleepless night, partly because of the party and partly because of busily writing diaries ( a customary thing before departure), I couldn't handle the growing pressure. I simply tried to manage the group and keep everybody cool without losing my temper - showing the sparks of a budding manager. Since we had to leave immediately after the presentation, we were allotted the second slot. The panelist were very happy from the performance of the earlier group and I was happy as it was the group of Arunabh, Padmesh and Neeraj. Anyways we entered the room all prepared to face the big challenge.
I started off and was taken over by piya. Then another group member survived but once the panelists spotted our weakest link, they screwed us. They demanded none of us to speak and threatened the only nervous fellow. At that moment we forgot all our differences and wanted to rescue our group, but the teachers were not ready to lose their grip on the weak link that they caught hold of. Our guide also couldn't save us and we all ended the presentation frustrated. While walking out of the presentation room, everyone knew that I and my roomie will be leaving these premises forever within an hour, but were busy in blaming each other for the poor performance. Anyways, I couldn't afford much time on that crap as I had some more important issues to settle before departing.
My brother cum friend, Kaushik turned up on the day from the beginning to speak after a long period of time. My initial reaction was weird - I still had the hangover of the screwed performance, but we fought with words hard to get to the hurting issues. Tears rolled down from both of our eyes and washed away everything that was holding us for such a long time. We sincerely liked each other's personality, but they clashed on certain aspects of life. It was that moment that I realized one simple fact: If you love someone dearly, then right or wrong should not come as a barrier between you and that persons. Then I made up with one of my dear friend, Neha with whom I drifted apart after 2nd year of my college. The moment I hugged her and made that old, lovely connection with her, I was flushed with memories of her love for me, and at that instant I forgot all our differences. I always knew that I will regain her friendship back, but that will happen in an instant, I didn't know that. Amidst all these fuss of solving the only 2 major issues of my college life, I could hardly manage to say Goodbye to only Neeraj. Padmesh had left without meeting and Arunabh went to station to help them shift the luggage and belongings of the other two. So, there I was. I regained some things back and in that time I failed to bid adieu my dearest friends. Of course, I still had piya and nitesh by my side. Piya actually helped me by managing the shifting of luggage and providing me some time.
When I returned to the hostel for the last 5 minutes, I could see Uncle waiting eagerly for us to move out. He was actually hurrying for me only, as I had to catch another train the very night. Who said we come and leave empty handed. I entered the college alone, but was leaving with some lifelong relationships. relations that I actually earned, nurtured and craved for. As we waived our hands to part, i could see into the bunch of tearful eyes. All my friends and my two great supporters were there. Yeah piya moved with me because she couldn't withstand me going away. But there were friends who can make anyone in the world proud. I always thought that I will be very happy to get the hell out of that place, but I was so very wrong. That was my heaven and they were mine. Actually we were the first ones to leave, so we had this type of grand farewell. This was my perfect moment of bidding adieu. May be even better than my imaginations. I will cherish it always.
I regretted for not being able to meet one last time to my best est friends. Soon after, fate played its role. Then I understood that I was never meant to part with them and hence required no formal farewell ceremony with them. I now completely believe that it requires to have a very good destiny to gain some very good friends. If friends are the jewels of life then I can proudly proclaim to the 5 solitaires and the numerous diamonds. The moment was so perfect that now I have no painful memories of my college or even of any person......... I think of being lucky to have such a moment in my life.
I have bored you enough with this longer blog, but trust me, i am only able to pen down merely 10% of the emotional turmoil of that day.......

Give Me Some Sunshine, Give me Some Rain, Give me Another Chance, I wanna Grow up the “SAME”

Sorry Guys! I am messing with the most popular theme in my first blog itself. But well, Blog is the only place where we can take the risk of expressing different ideas with everyone surrounding us. With latest movies, the idea of rewinding one’s life to relive it is gearing up. Even I asked many of my friends about their opinion. While some preferred not to answer, others accepted and found some incidents of life that they can change.

At one point, even I felt like reliving it all again. But on pondering deeper, I just found out that growing up once again is not what I want. It took a long period of time and a great deal of things to come so far in life. I cannot think of investing the same amount of time once again to reach the same pinnacle in life. Apart from time, I have gathered some lifelong experience, which I cannot afford to lose.

Patience, Endurance, Contentment, and Honesty all this and much more………..

I know there is still a galaxy of unknown things and virtues. But I cannot lose my grip on some things which are already mine, merely to grab something new. More than these virtues, I have earned some beautiful relations in life. I really think God must be very pleased with me. It’s not all good with my life. I have made a lot of mistakes, some major ones and a ton of minor ones. These mistakes only helped me to grow: grow as a person, as a daughter, as a sister, as a friend, as a student. The bottom line is that only happiness is incomplete, unless there are some equal grievances to match the gravity of the happiness. So, my life is perfect and ideal. Not in the sense that I am the blessed child, but because I have experienced all sorts of things at the right time. This only makes me strong enough to face the truth and stand for the just.

We all have certain dreams, aspirations which compel us to go back. Instead of repenting over the initial failures, we must nurture our dreams with every defeat. We are all dazzled by the stars of various industries; but pause and think for a second. Did your icon really became what it is today in a split second? Who knew Dhirubhai, when he was only 23? Even if you plant a single seed, it takes some years before taking up your desired shape and bearing fruits. Same parallels can be drawn with life itself. Isn’t it folks? We are blindly racing to achieve the desired targets. We work pretty hard and put in our best efforts, the only thing that we forget is that everything happens at its correct time. Waiting patiently always pays at the end. I guess many of you will agree with me on this. Being patient doesn’t imply that you stop your hard work and relax. What I am trying to convey is that do not torture your soul and take life out of your existence merely to be competent enough.

Once you realize your long cherished dream without losing your soul and peace of mind, I bet you will never require for second chance. After all, you will be what you wanted. It takes a lifetime to be a human being in the modern scenario, leave aside the nice factor. Simply enjoy whatever you are doing and see how life becomes beautiful. If we realize this subtle fact and enjoy our mistakes too………… practically we will be ruling our lives in the “Perfect” way. Perfect is actually a misnomer word. So I prefer to call it a way which has the blend of all flavors and spices of life.

I know that I have made my first blog too philosophical instead of writing a simple funny thing. Trust me, this whole idea of growing up the same only inspired me to create my first blog. If it gets too boring, then do comment as I always look forward for improvising myself. And in any case if it touches your soul even for a single line, then also do acknowledge that. Encouragement is what I seek from all of you. I am eagerly waiting for a response from friends and fellow bloggers. Till then,

ENJOY THE NEW YEAR AND HAVE GREAT FUN!!!!!